In my previous posts, I want to speak slighting what we do not have. In our human life, each of us, the goals, something which we want. This is what remains, and the functioning of society. We go to school, hoping wants a good job, we want to go to work, in the hope of a good salary, and we want a good salary, in the hope of buying a house and support our family.
Everybody's asking for is different. Someone who wants to travel around the world may be lame to a computer player, want to be a pro while beginners have the whole day may not be attractive to somebody want to have a girlfriend or boyfriend, and wants a loving relationship could be insignificant to somebody wants one million U.S. dollars. Nevertheless, wherever we are, whether it is in the bus looking out the window or in an apartment overlooking the roof, which we things we want in our heads.
But what about the times when we want something so bad, but we can not. How does this make us feel?
There are two options when I referred to these categories, and that is apparently so out of reach at the moment, and things which have permanently. If this happens, an individual may, in turn, they can not have it, into an obsession. It is everything they think and what usually happens is the individual will consume what they do not have that they are not paralyzed, by all measures at all. This is a trap that we fall together.
For example, you always like someone so much that everything you do, do they think? You do not know what will happen to them if you have never do anything about it because of fear. But the idea that with them makes you feel good and so do you think about it.
Or have you ever, where you wanted to ask somebody in the public only in the interest of them, but how in the vicinity, nothing comes from the mouth? They keep promoting themselves to say something on the inside, but they never act. When you go home, then beat you What you wanted to intern at the moment is over and can not have it. In return, you are depressed or unhappy.
This is also true with money. We all have this dream the amount that we want. Sometimes we have them plastered on our walls. A day passes, and it is good, a week goes by and it is in order. A month passes and you are still the same amount. Now you are worried, but still confident. Two months, three months, five months ... and nothing has changed. Their frustration is beginning to worry. When about a year passed and you're still the same amount of money, you take the characters and fall into depression.
Then there are wishes that are permanent. Perhaps an example of things that are associated with bodily functions. Someone who just wants to be big and will probably never be too large if they have their growth spurt. They sit in their bone structure for the rest of their lives. Or with a disease like cancer and want to heal that does not yet exist.
The wishes that are temporary, even for one second do not feel good, but are tolerable after a while. The want a lasting, negative feelings can last for years and years.
To solve wants that we do not have - to the constant - we must accept the situation. If we never accept the situation, then there is always a disagreement in the harmony in our feelings. You want something, but it is impossible to have. These are two different feelings, which are separated, they are not identical, and they are not synchronized with each other. So, we tend to feel negative emotions such as anger or sadness. Learn to accept it and release.
To solve wants, that we are not at the time - this can be anything from yourself to lose, expect a certain amount of weight this week or within a certain amount of money this month - what you must do is to liberate the expectations.
They are not always to himself to expect something that is unrealistic. Yes, I could for a few flames, because it is good to "think big". But everything I am saying is that if you constantly with something that you want, be it into an obsession, and you are not happy during your current situation, because you do not have it yet. This is also associated with permanent want that we do not have. Imagine the question, "Is it okay, not that thing?" Here you can find relief, if you really think the answer is yes.
If you learn to let some of your expectations in life, and stay in a neutral state of emotion, which then anything even close to better than a neutral state are you in luck.
It's almost as if they were in a movie theater, a film with a too large, then sucks to go home and you shake your head. Months of hype gone to waste. Or they can log into the film not with the expectation of something, then the film blows you away. They go in awe. Sometimes the movie is bad as well, but at least you do not expect that it is too large.
It's the same thing with what we do not have. Perhaps another way, in a peaceful, calm state, while your goal is to not expect what you want that obsessed about it, but live in it comes, as you during the time and taking advantage opportunities in a casual manner, without expectations for the outcome.
This way you will not find you unhappy because you constantly want something from your mind the future, but happy because you learned to create the conditions now in the moment, and what comes to you in the future is a bonus.
If you're not obsessed, and nothing to do but think or expect, what you do not have a step back and in a neutral state. They are better able to live freely outside of your mind, greater awareness of your surroundings and more likely to take action.
Autor: Tristan Lee
For more self-improvements tips on personal success, visit my blog at http://www.tristanleesblog.com/.
Added: July 3, 2009
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